I-Arbogender ibhekisela kubunikazi bobulili obuxhumene ngokujulile futhi obuthonywe imvelo, ikakhulukazi izihlahla namahlathi. Abantu abahlonza njenge-arbogender bangase babe nokuhlobana okuqinile nezihlahla, bazizwe benomuzwa wobunikazi kanye nokusondelana nalezi zidalwa eziphilayo. Lokhu kuhlobana okuseduze kungase kube nobuhlobo obuseduze nezihlahla. kuvame ukuba nomthelela ekuziboneni kwabo, umbono wezwe, kanye nokuziqonda kwabo maqondana nomhlaba obazungezile.Igama elithi "arbogender" lisuselwe emagameni esiLatini "arbor," okusho isihlahla, kanye "ubulili," okuhlobene nomuzwa womuntu wokuthi ungowesilisa, owesifazane, noma obunye ubulili. Ngaphakathi kobubanzi bobunikazi obungavumelani nobulili, i-arbogender inikeza ilensi eyingqayizivele lapho abantu bengahlola khona ubulili babo kanye nokuvezwa kwabo. Kubantu abangabodwana be-arbogender, Izihlahla zifanekisela amandla, ukukhula, ukukhuthazela, nokuqina.Zibheka izihlahla njengabaqaphi abanamandla nabamnene, ezinikeza umthunzi nendawo engcwele kuyilapho zimi zinde futhi zigxilile emhlabeni. Ngokufanayo, abantu be-arbogender bangase babone ubunikazi babo bobulili njengomthombo wamandla nokuzinza, kuyilapho bemukela ubumnene nokunakekela izimfanelo ezivame ukuhlotshaniswa nezihlahla. Ukuxhumana phakathi kwe-arbogender nemvelo kuvame ukujula ngokomoya futhi kujulile. Abantu abaningi abangama-arbogender bachaza umuzwa wokuthula, ukuzola, kanye nokuzinza lapho bezungezwe izihlahla noma becwiliswe endaweni yemvelo. Ukusebenzelana nezihlahla ngemisebenzi efana nokugona izihlahla, ukuzindla, noma ukuchitha isikhathi nje emahlathini kungase kulethe umuzwa ojulile wokuqinisekisa nokuvumelana nobunikazi bazo bobulili. Abantu be-Arbogender bangase futhi bazizwe benomuzwa oqinile wokuhlobana nezinhlobo zezihlahla ezihlukene, bezibona njengabamelela izimfanelo ezithile zesihlahla noma behambisana nezimfanelo ezithile ezihlobene nezihlahla ezahlukene. Lokhu kuxhumana kungabonakala ngezindlela ezihlukahlukene, njengokwamukela izici namandla esihlahla esithile, noma ngisho nokusebenzisa uphawu oluhlobene nesihlahla ekuzivezeni kwazo, njengokufaka amaqabunga, ukwakheka kwamagxolo, noma imibala yomhlaba engutsheni yazo, izisekeli, noma umsebenzi wobuciko. Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi i-arbogender iyisipiliyoni esijulile somuntu siqu kanye nomuntu ngamunye. Ukuxhumana komuntu ngamunye kwe-arbogender nezihlahla nemvelo, kanye nokuqonda kwabo ubulili babo, kungahluka kakhulu kumuntu nomuntu. Abanye bangase bazizwe benokuxhumana okuqinile, okungantengantengi esihlahleni esisodwa noma uhlobo oluthile, kuyilapho abanye bengase babe nolwazi oluningi noluguquguqukayo oluguquguqukayo ngokuhamba kwesikhathi nezinkathi zonyaka ezihlukene. Njenganoma ibuphi ubunjalo bobulili, kubalulekile ukuhlonipha nokweseka abantu abangabodwana be-arbogender ohambweni lwabo lokuzitholela kanye nokuziveza. Ukuqinisekisa ulwazi lwabo kanye nokuvuma ukubaluleka kwezihlahla ezimpilweni zabo kungasiza ekudaleni indawo ehlanganisayo neqinisekisayo kubo. Ukulalela izindaba zabo, ukunikeza izindawo eziphephile zokuxoxisana, kanye nokugqugquzela ukuqwashisa mayelana ne-arbogender nezinye izinto ezingezona kanambambili kungakhuthaza ukuqonda okukhulu nokwamukelwa emphakathini uwonke.